Men and women have different ways of expressing affection but when a guy is really into you, there are obvious things he will do to show you that he cares. It’s rare to find such a guy who possesses these qualities but when you find one that does, don’t let him go. Next time you spend time with your guy, pay close attention to things he will do to show you that he cares!

1. He Respects You

Showing you respect is one of the most important things he will do to show you that he cares. This means: respecting your boundaries, respecting your morals and values, as well as respecting your family and friends. If you ever at any point of your relationship feel uncomfortable, you probably feel deep down that there isn’t a level of mutual respect between the two of you. When a guy respects you, I mean REALLY respects you, he will be patient with you and he will never be forceful.

2. He Gives You Space

A healthy relationship requires both parties to understand and respect each other’s personal bubble. A sure sign that he really cares about you is if he trusts you enough to go out with your girlfriends whenever you feel you need to take some you time. It’s wonderful and romantic to spend time together, of course, but you need time for you too, girl! A guy that understands that is a keeper.

3. He Listens to You

Ladies, contrary to what the world makes us believe that men are all after only one thing or that they don’t like to listen to us, there ARE guys out there who are very genuine and compassionate. A guy who really cares about you will take time to listen to you – he will want to be that shoulder to cry on and to be attentive to you and want to give you feedback to your stories.

4. He Encourages You

Encouragement is crucial in every relationship, even among friends. To establish a healthy relationship with a guy, both you and him need to encourage each other in all that you do. If he really cares about you, he will be the first one to say YES to helping you achieve a dream, or he will send you sweet messages of inspiration throughout the day, or he may even just show up at your house to show you that he wants to be there with you and FOR you. You are special. Tell yourself every day that you deserve a guy who uplifts you instead of brings you down, who inspires you rather than discourages you, and you appreciates you rather than takes advantage of you.

5. He Trusts You

Trusting someone is the most difficult and yet most important foundation of every relationship. We’ve all been burned by someone at one point in our lives…maybe even several times and maybe even more than once by the same person. A guy I was dating over the summer gave me the impression that he was not trustworthy and after a month of talking, he told me he still loved his ex. I understand it can be difficult to open yourself up to someone and it can be difficult to trust; however, if a guy truly cares about you he will speak with his actions rather than his words, he will keep promises no matter how small, and he will stick by your side no matter what. Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t trust you or whom you don’t trust.

6. He Surprises You

Who doesn’t love surprises? The best kind of surprise is opening your door to see your crush or boyfriend unexpectedly standing outside, flowers given to you out of the blue, good morning text messages, or hugs from behind. You’re probably feeling all warm and fuzzy right now, aren’t ya? Well, this is the feeling you should hold on to and feel when you’re with the right guy. If he really cares, he will go out of his way to make sure that you are happy and feel safe and are always surprised with excitement!

7. He Is Open with You

Ladies, openness is key to a long-lasting relationship. Women tend to be more in tune with their feelings and emotions than men, but when you find a guy who is really into you, HE will probably be more open with you than you are with him! He will want to tell you about his day, share stories about his family, and constantly ask you about how YOU are feeling and or find out what you’re doing.

A guy who cares about you will show you from day one. If you are not feeling butterflies or seeing him do any of these acts of kindness, he is not worth your beautiful time and energy. How am I so sure? Because I’ve dated guys who were sweet but not 100% attentive; who seemed to cross everything off the list but hid their true self underneath; who I thought I could see myself with long-term but in the end did not possess the qualities I was looking for. I can assure you ladies that guys who care exist…I am dating someone now who shows me all of these signs every single day and started showing me them from day one. My New Year’s wish for you is that you find a guy who cares for you and shows it! Is your crush or boyfriend a caring best friend?