Just because you haven’t been beaten up yet doesn’t mean you aren’t suffering. In fact, verbal abuse in relationships is on the rise, and the psychological damage it inflicts can be crippling.
Women don’t plan to enter into abusive relationships. In fact, many women who have escaped abusive relationships swear to themselves that they will never get into another one, just to find themselves in another one.
Sadly, it takes an average of five to seven acts of violence before a woman leaves her abuser. So, why not plan to not enter into an abusive relationship in the first place?
If you or someone you love identifies with these signs, it may be time to escape and to escape this insidious torment, you have to be able to spot the symptoms:
Below are eight (8) signs you’re in a verbally abusive relationship:
- He seems irritated or angry with you several times a week, when you ask why he’s mad, he either denies it or tells you it’s in some way your fault.
- When you feel hurt and try to talk with him, the issues never get resolved. He might refuse to discuss your upset feelings by saying, “You’re just trying to start an argument!” or claiming he has no idea what you’re talking about.
- You frequently feel frustrated because you can’t get him to understand your intentions.
- You’re upset—not so much about concrete issues like how much time to spend together, but about communication: what he thinks you said and what you heard him say.
- You sometimes think, “What’s wrong with me? I shouldn’t feel so bad.”
- He has very unrealistic expectations: He expects you to be the perfect person and meet their every need.
- He pushes for quick involvement: He comes on strong, claiming, “I’ve never felt loved like this before by anyone.” You get pressured for an exclusive commitment almost immediately
- he calls you names like whore,bitch,dumb etc..